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The CTRL Awareness Model™

A Mirror to Mindset Maturity — Exploring the Four Levels of Awareness

A modern, practical way to locate your current level of awareness, see patterns clearly, and grow with intention.

Why It Matters

Most self-awareness models focus on how to build awareness — but they miss a critical point: how aware are you right now?

The CTRL model gives individuals a clear, relatable way to locate themselves on the self-awareness journey. It turns vague concepts into visible stages — helping people spot patterns, reflect honestly, and grow with intention.

It can also be used by L&D professionals, coaches, or teams to better understand where someone might be — and how to create the right environment for them to move forward safely.

How It Differs

Unlike the Johari Window or traditional emotional intelligence models, CTRL isn’t just a reflection tool.

It’s a map of mindset maturity — a guide to understanding someone’s current awareness level, how they process feedback, and how much psychological safety or support they need in order to move forward. It’s both diagnostic and developmental.

What It Is

C — Concealed

🗣 “I’m fine!”

Unaware or guarded. Feedback often feels like a threat.

➡️ Safety and trust haven’t yet been established by the individual — even if others are open. Growth begins when they let others in.

C

T — Triggered

🗣 “I didn’t realise that!”

Awareness is sparked by external input — a comment, a reaction, a hard truth.

➡️ They want to grow but often don’t know how to begin. Vulnerable to shame or overthinking without support.

T

R — Regulated

🗣 “Can I check something with you?”

Proactively seeks input, reflection, and feedback.

➡️ Ready to grow — but needs psychologically safe relationships that offer honesty without judgment.

R

L — Lead

🗣 “I sensed something was off.”

Intuitive and relationally attuned — adjusts before the moment unravels.

➡️ Models presence and self-awareness for others. Creates safety by how they show up.

L

Why Film Analogies?

I use film analogies because great stories make complex ideas memorable. Movies give us shared scenes, emotions, and turning points — so when pressure rises in real life, you can recall the moment, recognise the pattern, and choose the next small step with clarity.

🛸 Think: Anakin Skywalker (pre-fall) — talented but defensive, isolating himself and rejecting concern from others.

🛸 Think: Luke on Dagobah (early Yoda training) — wants to learn, but keeps tripping over his own emotions and doubts.

🛸 Think: Rey during training with Leia — self-aware, open, and learning to navigate feedback and connection confidently.

🛸 Think: Obi-Wan (Episode IV) — calm, connected, aware of what’s unspoken; leads through presence more than control.

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Behind the CV

Turn a static CV into a conversation. Explain gaps, highlight values, and frame transferable skills for roles or interviews.

  • Surface the “why” behind your moves
  • Craft tight, human answers for interviews
  • Translate experience across industries
Coaching

Insights Inspired Coach

Short, reflective prompts to help you notice patterns and commit to one concrete next step you can own this week.

  • Gentle questions, no fluff
  • Spot assumptions and reframes
  • End with a clear action
Team Practice

Psychological Safety Adventure

A choose-your-own-adventure for safer teams: learn micro-behaviours, pick experiments, and run small missions together.

  • Practical, low-risk experiments
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  • Build habits that stick

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Podcasts & Guest Spots

Watch a clip (where available) or open the episode on your preferred platform.

The Learning & Development Podcast
Episode: Shifting to a Culture of Autonomous Learning — 19 Aug 2019
Everand Amazon Music
Learning While Working — Sprout Labs
Fostering a learning culture in a tech company — c. 2018–19
Learning & Development Stories
Mobilising Subject-Matter Experts — 26 Feb 2019
99 Problems — HowNow
Building a Learning Mindset — 5 May 2021
The Weird Is Nrml Podcast
You do not need to know everything — 28 Sep 2021
Digital Adoption Show — Whatfix
Taking control of your learning journey — 4 Jul 2022 (comps 2024)
Building Thinkers
Building Ecosystems for Never-Ending Learning — c. 2023
Stay Hungry (for Knowledge) – Learnster
Shift mindset to unlock growth — 2024/25
Unscripted — L&D Shakers
Integrating nudge learning with 70:20:10 — 2 May 2025
Bennu Community Podcast
What Comes After the LMS? — 2024/25